@Peter-Schiefer

Please don't tell us how Dutch works, even Google knows better:
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And maybe better also not how English works:

But her I will stop too, I am to the IT expert to explain it better.

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The rest: TL;DR

@nick-dawson Could your pal not send it to you, stating on the customs label that it is property being returned to you? This is a bona fide means of avoiding VAT and import duties which I have used to send stuff to family in Ireland (you might want to look into t’s & c’s though).